Not Feeling the Fashion Police

It's mini rant time again. . . .
From fashion to flavors of the month, I wish "what's in and what's out lists" would dissolve like the superficial judgement they are based on. Why is being in so important? What's so bad about being out? Who wrote the rules, why does anyone care and why must we attempt to judge and compartmentalize each other?
Sniping, mean, laughter at someone else's expense is never in. What is - is much more important to me. Inclusion is.